{"id":279,"date":"2020-07-14T22:14:46","date_gmt":"2020-07-14T22:14:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/monpsychomag.com\/?p=279"},"modified":"2020-09-28T16:34:19","modified_gmt":"2020-09-28T16:34:19","slug":"enfance-douloureuse-que-faire","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/monpsychomag.com\/index.php\/2020\/07\/14\/enfance-douloureuse-que-faire\/","title":{"rendered":"Enfance douloureuse, que faire ?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"db567aefa9b9073415b194386f2f1045\" data-index=\"3\" style=\"float: none; margin:0px 0 0px 0; text-align:center;\">\n<!-- Code \u00e0 placer \u00e0 l'endroit ou vous voulez afficher les publicit\u00e9s -->\r\n<div id=\"afrikad-slot-1741-p-1\"\r\n     data-afrikad\r\n     data-slot-id=\"1741\" \r\n     data-dynamic-countries=\"tg\"\r\n     style=\"margin: auto; width: 300px; height: 275px;\"><\/div>\r\n\r\n<!-- Code \u00e0 placer de pr\u00e9ference une seule fois en bas de page -->\r\n<script>\r\n    (function (d) {\r\n        if (window.afrikadInit == null) {\r\n            window.afrikadInit = function (sdk) {\r\n                sdk.autoload();\r\n            };\r\n        }\r\n\r\n        var js, ajs = d.getElementsByTagName('script')[0];\r\n        if (d.getElementById('afrikad-sdk')) {\r\n            return;\r\n        }\r\n        js = d.createElement('script');\r\n        js.id = \"afrikad-sdk\";\r\n        js.src = \"https:\/\/www.afrikad.com\/build\/latest\/js\/sdk.js\";\r\n        ajs.parentNode.insertBefore(js, ajs);\r\n    }(document));\r\n<\/script>\n<\/div>\n\n<p>Notre enfance a toujours \u00e9t\u00e9 le fruit de bonnes et de mauvaises exp\u00e9riences. Parfois les mauvaises exp\u00e9riences prennent le dessus ( s\u00e9vices corporels, abandon des parents, harc\u00e8lement sexuel ou moral v\u00e9cu,<a href=\"https:\/\/monpsychomag.com\/index.php\/2020\/07\/13\/solution-daudrey-koubodena-contre-le-viol\/\"> viol<\/a>, conflit de famille \u2026) Notre personnalit\u00e9 \u00e0 l&rsquo;\u00e2ge adulte est le fruit de notre pass\u00e9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Comment reprendre le contr\u00f4le de notre vie, apr\u00e8s une <a href=\"https:\/\/madame.lefigaro.fr\/bien-etre\/se-remettre-dune-enfance-douloureuse-010115-2453\">enfance douloureuse<\/a> ? Comment retrouver ses rep\u00e8res malgr\u00e9 la pr\u00e9sence des r\u00e9percussions psychologiques de nos mauvaises exp\u00e9riences du pass\u00e9 ? Toutes les r\u00e9ponses \u00e0 ces questions dans cet article.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>1- Accepter la situation<\/strong> : La premi\u00e8re \u00e9tape vers votre bien-\u00eatre est, l&rsquo;acceptation de la situation. Vous devez arriver \u00e0 la compr\u00e9hension selon laquelle : \u00ab\u00a0tout peut nous arriver tant qu&rsquo;on est individu\u00a0\u00bb. A ce stade, on trouvera une facilit\u00e9 dans l&rsquo;acceptation de nos mauvaises exp\u00e9riences.<\/p><div class=\"db567aefa9b9073415b194386f2f1045\" data-index=\"3\" style=\"float: none; margin:0px 0 0px 0; text-align:center;\">\n<!-- Code \u00e0 placer \u00e0 l'endroit ou vous voulez afficher les publicit\u00e9s -->\r\n<div id=\"afrikad-slot-1741-p-1\"\r\n     data-afrikad\r\n     data-slot-id=\"1741\" \r\n     data-dynamic-countries=\"tg\"\r\n     style=\"margin: auto; width: 300px; height: 275px;\"><\/div>\r\n\r\n<!-- Code \u00e0 placer de pr\u00e9ference une seule fois en bas de page -->\r\n<script>\r\n    (function (d) {\r\n        if (window.afrikadInit == null) {\r\n            window.afrikadInit = function (sdk) {\r\n                sdk.autoload();\r\n            };\r\n        }\r\n\r\n        var js, ajs = d.getElementsByTagName('script')[0];\r\n        if (d.getElementById('afrikad-sdk')) {\r\n            return;\r\n        }\r\n        js = d.createElement('script');\r\n        js.id = \"afrikad-sdk\";\r\n        js.src = \"https:\/\/www.afrikad.com\/build\/latest\/js\/sdk.js\";\r\n        ajs.parentNode.insertBefore(js, ajs);\r\n    }(document));\r\n<\/script>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n\n<p><strong>2- Le pass\u00e9 est pass\u00e9, hier n&rsquo;existe plus.<\/strong> Selon le psychologue togolais,<a href=\"https:\/\/www.theses.fr\/226386430\"> Xavier ALLADO<\/a>, professeur au d\u00e9partement de psychologie appliqu\u00e9e \u00e0 l&rsquo;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.daas.univ-lome.tg\">universit\u00e9 de Lom\u00e9<\/a>, il faut arriver \u00e0 comprendre que le pass\u00e9 ne reviendra plus. A cette compr\u00e9hension, l&rsquo;individu peut r\u00e9aliser la futilit\u00e9 et la perte d&rsquo;\u00e9nergie qui r\u00e9side dans la r\u00e9tention des mauvaises exp\u00e9riences du pass\u00e9. La strat\u00e9gie ici consiste \u00e0 avancer en se focalisant sur le futur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>3- D\u00e9velopper des strat\u00e9gies de riposte<\/strong> : La strat\u00e9gie de riposte consiste \u00e0 trouver une activit\u00e9, un m\u00e9tier, une profession qui nous permet de nous lib\u00e9rer. Le travail est le second lieu de r\u00e9alisation de l&rsquo;amour (le premier lieu qui r\u00e9side dans l&rsquo;enfance et que la majorit\u00e9 rate d&rsquo;ailleurs), et de cr\u00e9ation d&rsquo;identit\u00e9 sociale.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>4- Exprimez-vous<\/strong> : S&rsquo;exprimer, peut se faire de plusieurs mani\u00e8res. On peut s&rsquo;exprimer par la parole, les gestes, l&rsquo;\u00e9crit, l&rsquo;habillement\u2026 L&rsquo;id\u00e9e est d&rsquo;exprimer nos \u00e9motions n\u00e9gatives du pass\u00e9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>5- Se faire accompagner<\/strong> : Dans certaines situations, l&rsquo;accompagnement d&rsquo;un <a href=\"https:\/\/monpsychomag.com\/index.php\/2020\/06\/28\/voici-quinze-situations-dans-lesquelles-vous-devez-consulter-un-psychologue-du-travail-et-des-organisations\/\">psychologue<\/a> est n\u00e9cessaire pour la gu\u00e9rison. N&rsquo;h\u00e9sitez pas \u00e0<a href=\"https:\/\/monpsychomag.wordpress.com\/contact\/\"> demander de l&rsquo;aide<\/a> si vous \u00eates dans le cas.<\/p>\n\n<div style=\"font-size: 0px; height: 0px; line-height: 0px; margin: 0; padding: 0; clear: both;\"><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Notre enfance a toujours \u00e9t\u00e9 le fruit de bonnes et de mauvaises exp\u00e9riences. 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